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Sl-o-o-o-w Children
By Kendra | May 6, 2009
Any experience with a pokey child? She’s three but I think this is more of a personality thing -she does what is asked, but s l o w l y…not really defiantly. Are some kids just more pokey? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
-Alicia
Alicia-
We have one of those, and when we went to potty train him it took one full year. We were so frustrated, but then one day it dawned on us that the mellow, kick-back, go-with-the-flow style we loved about this little guy in every other area of his life was just manifesting itself as usual. Once we realized that we were really asking him to change the way he was wired, we stopped making such a fuss.
Balance here, of course. Now that he is older we do have to encourage him to use his time wisely, but he likely is never going to be the bouncy “Tigger” his older brother is. And doesn’t every family need a static, reliable, steady “Pooh Bear”?
~Kendra
Topics: Educating at Home, Training Little Ones | 4 Comments »
May 6th, 2009 at 4:30 pm
Thanks for the post Kendra. I’m again reminded how important it is to discern my child’s heart before jumping in to train or discipline her. As often as not, I realize I’m trying to rush her in order to make MY life more convenient and while there are certainly times when that’s necessary in a family, there are just as many times when my pokey toddler needs to be allowed take in life at a little slower pace. Once again, your grace and truth make for good wisdom. Blessings!
May 6th, 2009 at 6:27 pm
We are blessed with 2 such pokey joes.
I used to tell my son when he was younger that if the house ever caught on fire at night, someone would have to carry him out. Cause if we waited on him, we’d all burn up! LOL! I now have another pokey boy; I guess 2 out of 10 isn’t so bad.
It does make morning chore time quite stressful at times though. I have found that at times we have to start activities without him. That usually speeds him up rather quickly.
Dawn
May 6th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
I hate it when I hit submit before I mean to. LOL!
I also wanted to say that my pokey older son(18 yrs old) is the one who sat down yesterday and played probably a dozen games of Trouble with his 6 yr old brother. He feels no urgency to do anything else; he can and will take the time to play. The youngers love it and always want him to play with them.
And on a side note-he works with his dad, and hubby tells me that at work, he is an attentive, hard worker. Like you said, we have had to learn to appreciate his laid back nature.
Dawn
May 7th, 2009 at 4:12 am
Kendra,
Thank you for writing on a myriad of topics. I guess with 8 you have a little of everyone living in your family. I too have an 8 year old girl who is pokey. Sweet, funny, smart and so slow it drives Type A mama crazy. God is using her to help me slow down and enjoy life. Dawn, it is nice to know that pokey sometimes doesn’t always mean pokey all the time. I too struggle in the morning chore routine and since she is my eldest I feel like I must wait for her as most of it is specifically for her.
Thanks for all the good ideas.
Megan